Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?

In Agatha Christie’s ‘Curtain’, which was famed fictional detective Hercule Poirot’s last case, the sleuth encounters an antagonist who never does anything by his own hands. Instead, he plays with minds and words, which induces a third party to commit a crime and confess about the same. Of course, there was no way the person could have been punished for playing with minds.

You must be wondering why I started the article with this reference. When the news of Sushant Singh Rajput’s ‘rude’ behaviour, along with a video to support the same, started doing rounds, I paused, and watched it. Did I find him rude? No, I did not. Did I find the questions thrown in his face forcing his demeanour to be tough? Yes, I did. Because this is not the first time stars have been sweetly coerced into commenting upon a sensational topic, but this certainly is the first time a film star spoke on same and condemned it. However, what is bothersome is that he is being panned for the same, being criticised for simply not speaking about something he was not well-versed with and was not in sync with the situation too. Though the example quoted above is a tad too extreme, this one fits the bill.

Multiple times, words are put into the mouth of the actors, and then those are reported with the quintessential masala, regardless of the consequences. So, can we really be cross with Sushant and Kriti for not wanting to comment on a politically delicate situation? It is their choice, right?


In the trailer launch of Kriti Sanon and Sushant Singh Rajput’s ‘Raabta’, a question was asked about the on-going fervour over Indian RAW agent Kulbhushan Yadav, who has been sentenced to death in Pakistan. While Kriti chose to evade the question politely, someone from the journalist fraternity chose to pursue the same and tried to reprimand Kriti over stopping the director from answering the question.

This is where Sushant Singh Rajput stepped in and started to explain the situation. Sushant was quite polite when he said that a public figure is not bound to speak on everything, and that it is a matter of choice. Further, he also said that one should not speak if one feels that the knowledge that he or she has is not enough to speak on the matter. Quite fair, isn’t it? But when you watch the video carefully, you do notice that the actor is being interrupted frequently, and hence, he became quite stern, by the end of it.

Any human would react the same way, don’t you think? Then why do we expect our stars to deal with everything in a calm manner, to be a saint, even when they are being pinched and prodded. What you sow is what you shall reap. So why make a hue and cry when Sushant reacted?

There is a fine line between intrusion and interrogation. Both the parties on the either side of the mic are humane, and we, whether journalists or stars, should realise its limitations and understand the reactions without jumping the guns. Sushant reacted in a humane way, like anyone would, on constant interruptions, when he or she is trying to explain their stance on a matter. Cut him some slack, will you?

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable
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Kapoor & Sons – Since 1921. The house proudly flaunted that to the world, nestled in the greens of Coonoor. No one knew the darkness that was inside, the demons that were individually dealt with. But then, isn’t every family like that?

Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?

Two years have passed by since this Shakun Batra-directorial, story of a dysfunctional family had come to our lives. However, amongst the various themes that tore apart the family and eventually brought it together, one that truly had the power to transform, was that of homosexuality.

Not many know, that the role played by Fawad Khan, that of family’s elder son, a successful author, was actually offered to many A-listers, who turned it down, eventually leading him to step into the shoes of Rahul. And it was, indeed, a very big step on his part. He was venturing out of his territory, a man who has such a huge female-fan following, and comes from a country with religion as its main running philosophy. He did the role and brought such conviction to it that we were forced to stand up and applaud, his courage, and the beauty with which his character was carved.

Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?

Since times immemorial, all our memories of gay characters on screen have been that of carelessly effeminate and unimportant roles, which are just there to add a comic element. The stereotype has been high to an extent that often the champions of the same channelise it and promote it, for it is wrapped in the shiny paper of presentation. The biggest example of this was ‘Dostana’, which was an amazing story of friendship, still used homosexuality as humour, as its backdrop. Ironically, it came from the same production house, though nearly eight years before that.

Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?

But ‘Kapoor & Sons’ begged to differ here. The character here was real, someone who was hiding himself, for the society, his family. There was surreality to the theme of homosexuality here, which had the power to jar us inside out; and that, it did.

Two scenes from the movie specifically hit me. First one is when Sunita (Ratna Patak Shah) finds out that her ideal elder son, whom she adores and is proud of, is not straight. The aftereffects of the same jolt you, because the reaction is just what an Indian mother gives, in any situation that is beyond her control; uncontrollable anger at the offspring, and then uncontrollable guilt, of blaming herself and her upbringing. The scene is filmed so beautifully, that your eyes sting. The way Fawad’s facade falls and his fear is marked across his face, which is then replaced by the anger of hiding himself for all those years, and mother’s dilemma and hurt, it all comes out in a naked and real manner.

Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?

Another sequence is when Rahul (Fawad Khan) comes back home after the showdown with his mother and the death of his father totally uproots whatever sanity his family possessed. He sits with his mother, with whom his last encounter was one of his coming out, and she asks, hesitatingly, about his partner. A subtle way of expressing acceptance, the way they hold hands, without saying anything, it stays with you.

Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?

It may not be one masterpiece, but ‘Kapoor & Sons’ will forever remain a favourite for finally breaking the mainstream stereotype of a gay man, in Bollywood. And for that, no matter how many bans, I will forever be waiting for Fawad Khan to come back, and give us more performances; with dare and conviction.

Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?

An ode to Sridevi, the queen who inspired the queers long before it became mainstream

An ode to Sridevi, the queen who inspired the queers long before it became mainstream
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“I am a kid from the 90s but still can’t forget those days when, me-myself was not out and proud about my preferences. And inside my own sweet world would dance in front of the mirror on many songs, but majorly on ‘Hawa Hawai’ and ‘Main Teri Dushman, Dushman Tu Mera’. These songs were just not tunes for me, it made me feel exactly what I was; a QUEERby birth”.

Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?
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The news of the legendary diva Sridevi being no more with us is still hard to believe, as she was part of my and every queer’s childhood memories. While in the late 90s my bunch of friends would idolise a star from the West as their gay icon, me being a full-fledged Bollywood fanatic was in love with Sridevi and she was a diva I used to worship (and will forever). Her golden costume and perfectly done makeup in ‘Hawa Hawai’ made me feel, “Yes! There is someone like me out there who loves bling and all things loud.” Her feather headgear in one of the songs from ‘Roop Ki Rani Choron Ka Raja’, touched my drag Queen‘s soul. One of the lines from her song ‘Hawa Hawai’ which is ‘Soorat Hi Maine Aisi Paayi’ transported me into a world where I thought that there is someone narcissist just like me. Sridevi’s charm was on my mind and the feminine side in me just wanted to be a replica of her.

Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?
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The gone actress has not only given a lot to the Indian cinema, but her sass and talent of naturally moulding herself into any character gave her an upper hand in whatever she used to do. When many gay men were struggling and were confused about their sexual orientation they found a connection to their on-going pain in Sridevi’s roles. Whether it was Sridevi as a meek Anju and ferocious Manju fighting for everything wrong in ‘ChaalBaaz’ (1989), Pooja’s mutiny against the everlasting societal conditions in ‘Lamhe’ (1991), Seema’s confidence-filled and fearless dance in the ‘Mr. India’ (1987) song ‘Hawa Hawaai’ or her role of a naagin (snake) coming out to the world about her dual identity in ‘Nagina’ (1986), Sri’s roles had a deep connection and were etched in every GAY man’s mind.


Dear all, Sushant Singh Rajput reacted in a humane manner. Cut him some slack, will you?
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And how can one miss ‘Kate Nahin Kat Te’ song of Sridevi from ‘Mr. India’, where she owned the song and made every gay guy’s dream to dance on it once with his man. This particular song was wild, seductive and equal parts bold. Sridevi draped in a sky-blue coloured saree with a matching bindi and of course adding fuel to the fire was her dancing moves. Even at the end of the song, a fully wet in rainwater, Sridevi stretching herself on a pile of hay – ‘Tumne jo li angdayi hai’ – where the diva nibbles on straws with a drenched fire in her eyes, leaving Mr. Kapoor to chivalrously lie on a distant haystack.

While mostly when the film fraternity was in a zone where feminine men were used as a tool to add fun elements on the silver screen, Sridevi was a ray of hope for the LGBTQ community. She was like a powerful symbol for the QUEERS. Her role resonated each and every gays struggle, and also echoed their dysphoria into her characters. And with her, all the queer children surpassed the narrow-minded stereotypes which they were labelled with. Lastly, she might be gone, but the colourful rainbow universe she opened for all the fellow LGBTQ people remains there intact..

Hail the QUEEN! RIP Sridevi.