Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made ‘coming out’ look doable

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Kapoor & Sons – Since 1921. The house proudly flaunted that to the world, nestled in the greens of Coonoor. No one knew the darkness that was inside, the demons that were individually dealt with. But then, isn’t every family like that?

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

Two years have passed by since this Shakun Batra-directorial, story of a dysfunctional family had come to our lives. However, amongst the various themes that tore apart the family and eventually brought it together, one that truly had the power to transform, was that of homosexuality.

Not many know, that the role played by Fawad Khan, that of family’s elder son, a successful author, was actually offered to many A-listers, who turned it down, eventually leading him to step into the shoes of Rahul. And it was, indeed, a very big step on his part. He was venturing out of his territory, a man who has such a huge female-fan following, and comes from a country with religion as its main running philosophy. He did the role and brought such conviction to it that we were forced to stand up and applaud, his courage, and the beauty with which his character was carved.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

Since times immemorial, all our memories of gay characters on screen have been that of carelessly effeminate and unimportant roles, which are just there to add a comic element. The stereotype has been high to an extent that often the champions of the same channelise it and promote it, for it is wrapped in the shiny paper of presentation. The biggest example of this was ‘Dostana’, which was an amazing story of friendship, still used homosexuality as humour, as its backdrop. Ironically, it came from the same production house, though nearly eight years before that.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

But ‘Kapoor & Sons’ begged to differ here. The character here was real, someone who was hiding himself, for the society, his family. There was surreality to the theme of homosexuality here, which had the power to jar us inside out; and that, it did.

Two scenes from the movie specifically hit me. First one is when Sunita (Ratna Patak Shah) finds out that her ideal elder son, whom she adores and is proud of, is not straight. The aftereffects of the same jolt you, because the reaction is just what an Indian mother gives, in any situation that is beyond her control; uncontrollable anger at the offspring, and then uncontrollable guilt, of blaming herself and her upbringing. The scene is filmed so beautifully, that your eyes sting. The way Fawad’s facade falls and his fear is marked across his face, which is then replaced by the anger of hiding himself for all those years, and mother’s dilemma and hurt, it all comes out in a naked and real manner.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

Another sequence is when Rahul (Fawad Khan) comes back home after the showdown with his mother and the death of his father totally uproots whatever sanity his family possessed. He sits with his mother, with whom his last encounter was one of his coming out, and she asks, hesitatingly, about his partner. A subtle way of expressing acceptance, the way they hold hands, without saying anything, it stays with you.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

It may not be one masterpiece, but ‘Kapoor & Sons’ will forever remain a favourite for finally breaking the mainstream stereotype of a gay man, in Bollywood. And for that, no matter how many bans, I will forever be waiting for Fawad Khan to come back, and give us more performances; with dare and conviction.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

An ode to Sridevi, the queen who inspired the queers long before it became mainstream

An ode to Sridevi, the queen who inspired the queers long before it became mainstream
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“I am a kid from the 90s but still can’t forget those days when, me-myself was not out and proud about my preferences. And inside my own sweet world would dance in front of the mirror on many songs, but majorly on ‘Hawa Hawai’ and ‘Main Teri Dushman, Dushman Tu Mera’. These songs were just not tunes for me, it made me feel exactly what I was; a QUEERby birth”.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable
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The news of the legendary diva Sridevi being no more with us is still hard to believe, as she was part of my and every queer’s childhood memories. While in the late 90s my bunch of friends would idolise a star from the West as their gay icon, me being a full-fledged Bollywood fanatic was in love with Sridevi and she was a diva I used to worship (and will forever). Her golden costume and perfectly done makeup in ‘Hawa Hawai’ made me feel, “Yes! There is someone like me out there who loves bling and all things loud.” Her feather headgear in one of the songs from ‘Roop Ki Rani Choron Ka Raja’, touched my drag Queen‘s soul. One of the lines from her song ‘Hawa Hawai’ which is ‘Soorat Hi Maine Aisi Paayi’ transported me into a world where I thought that there is someone narcissist just like me. Sridevi’s charm was on my mind and the feminine side in me just wanted to be a replica of her.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable
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The gone actress has not only given a lot to the Indian cinema, but her sass and talent of naturally moulding herself into any character gave her an upper hand in whatever she used to do. When many gay men were struggling and were confused about their sexual orientation they found a connection to their on-going pain in Sridevi’s roles. Whether it was Sridevi as a meek Anju and ferocious Manju fighting for everything wrong in ‘ChaalBaaz’ (1989), Pooja’s mutiny against the everlasting societal conditions in ‘Lamhe’ (1991), Seema’s confidence-filled and fearless dance in the ‘Mr. India’ (1987) song ‘Hawa Hawaai’ or her role of a naagin (snake) coming out to the world about her dual identity in ‘Nagina’ (1986), Sri’s roles had a deep connection and were etched in every GAY man’s mind.


Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable
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And how can one miss ‘Kate Nahin Kat Te’ song of Sridevi from ‘Mr. India’, where she owned the song and made every gay guy’s dream to dance on it once with his man. This particular song was wild, seductive and equal parts bold. Sridevi draped in a sky-blue coloured saree with a matching bindi and of course adding fuel to the fire was her dancing moves. Even at the end of the song, a fully wet in rainwater, Sridevi stretching herself on a pile of hay – ‘Tumne jo li angdayi hai’ – where the diva nibbles on straws with a drenched fire in her eyes, leaving Mr. Kapoor to chivalrously lie on a distant haystack.

While mostly when the film fraternity was in a zone where feminine men were used as a tool to add fun elements on the silver screen, Sridevi was a ray of hope for the LGBTQ community. She was like a powerful symbol for the QUEERS. Her role resonated each and every gays struggle, and also echoed their dysphoria into her characters. And with her, all the queer children surpassed the narrow-minded stereotypes which they were labelled with. Lastly, she might be gone, but the colourful rainbow universe she opened for all the fellow LGBTQ people remains there intact..

Hail the QUEEN! RIP Sridevi.

Sridevi: Dear comrades in media, stop making a mockery of a legend's death, #LetHerRestInPeace

Sridevi: Dear comrades in media, stop making a mockery of a legend's death, #LetHerRestInPeace
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The date 24th February, 2018 will forever be burned in the memories of cinema lovers across the nation. Sridevi, the beloved ‘Chandni’ of Bollywood, left us all in a state of shock and sorrow as the news of her untimely demise hit us all, in the middle of the night. And ever since, along with trying to report the happenings and mishaps of the case, we are trying to keep ourselves level-headed.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

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Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

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However, while reporting on a matter of national eminence is required, there is a code of conduct too which stops us from crossing the line. Seems like, in the case of Sridevi, the eternal diva, this particular rule has been overruled by many fellow media outlets. And mind you, we are talking some big names here, and not just the new ones that have just popped up.


As per the details that Dubai based media outlets have been reporting, Sridevi’s death was officially caused due to accidental drowning. This raised eyebrows as the cause that was told earlier was that of cardiac arrest. Out of shock and grief, there are certain conclusions that the family reaches to, even though they may turn out to be wrong, right?

But soon after, speculations started floating in, with reports outrageously going on to state that the actress had probably been murdered. The suspect? Of course the husband who was the only one there at the moment.

If not enough, some media channels went on to recreate obnoxious headlines like “What happened in those last 30 minutes?”, and we-kid-you-not “Maut ka Bathtub” (the Bathtub of death). One person even jumped into the bathtub to prove that no fully grown human can die drowning there, unless forced.

You can actually have a look at some of these examples here. It’s funny, in an eerily mocking way, a joke on the event which has destroyed a whole family, and not just the hearts of the countless fans.

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

Kapoor & Sons: Caught the plight of homosexuals tenderly and yet made 'coming out' look doable

So much was the media coverage, and unnecessary one, that various Bollywood stars started coming together and posting on social media, condemning the behaviour and requesting media to leave the dead actress Alone, and not taint her living memories with such rumours.

This does make one think, where to draw the line? Is reporting and scandalising synonymous now? We do know that we need some extra spice to liven it up, and this is something which even the stars enjoy, but there is a limit to everything, ethically and humanely.

We do not completely absolve ourselves of any blame, after all, we too are a media outlet and we too thrive on the content and news from the tinsel town. Our traffic too hits the roof in matters of birth and death. And we too, are stuck between a strange emotion of happiness and sadness, former being when the viewers come in, and latter because the fan inside us is mourning the loss of someone we revered. But we do try, as much as we can, to stay away from being contemptuously ridiculing when matters like these are concerned.

Dear comrades, let’s just sit back and think, just take a moment, before turning into insensitive versions of ourselves. These are the stars, this is the industry that gives us the chance of becoming who we are. They and us are mutually co-existent. Is it fair to subject them to such speculations and scandals, especially in the matters of death? No, right?

So, the next time you make ridiculous graphics and headlines of a star’s loss, remember Sridevi, her two daughters who never thought their mother would not come home, and a husband who is having to deal with the fact that some of us are marking him the murderer of the love of his life. Think of the word that keeps us all together; family. May these pictures of Sridevi with hers, make you think twice before you scandalise another death.

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